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chapter two: sugar and spice and all things bitchy

...Early images of the female in form and idea were very different from those shown today. In ancient civilizations (ca. 2000-4000 B.C.) archaeological excavations have uncovered clay goddesses showing the female form as round-bellied and big-breasted. 'Inscribed clay tablets, unearthed relics and excavated temples tell of religious ceremonies celebrating the potent goddess of love and fertility'. In early matriarchal societies – where women were head of the family or children belong to the mother's clan – fertility, desire and sexual response of women's bodies was recognized as a blessing from the divine. In many early religions the mother goddess was the supreme deity, while the male gods played only a secondary role. Pre-monotheistic Jews and other tribes in their vicinity, worshipped both male and female deities. The notable female goddesses included Astarte, Anarth, Asherah and Sherah. Many of the mother goddesses gave birth to the story of humanity through their ability to mix clay, flesh and blood and bring them together as earthly and divine. Creation stories became birth chants for mothers in labour, a contrast to the patriarchal versions of birth through the Virgin Mary.

In a 7th century Babylonian text, the goddess Ishtar is described as a person of power, a great priestess and a member of reigning aristocracy. The goddess Isis arose as a powerful symbol in Egypt in the 3rd Century A.D., and was appropriated and transformed by the invading Greeks and Romans into multiple archetypes: Athena, the warrior; Artemis, the huntress; Hera, the nagging wife; and Aphrodite, the goddess of love. Over time Isis was tamed down by the Roman patriarchs to evoke stereotypes of pure and passive femininity. Isis became beautiful and sweet smelling, kind and nurturing and so eventually fitted into the role of gentle Virgin Mary. The earth-mother qualities of Isis were appropriated to the character of Mary; however, without the full breasted and round bellied version and with hymen intact. Representations of Mary are mostly without a male partner, as if 'his' role was too divine and mystical to be seen coupling. The central assumption of the Virgin Birth – that Mary had conceived without 'knowing a man' (that is, having been sexually penetrated) — implied the superiority of virginity over marriage, and the degrading nature of sexual relations.

Imagine how the ideal of purity for women has become a prescription of celibacy for nuns and priests, and for married women, the expectation of becoming the 'angel in the house': the domestic guardian of their husbands' and sons' virtue. Thus, in the patriarchal and monotheistic religions which replaced the earlier matriarchal systems, the fear of unregulated woman as the tempter, seducer and 'master' of men meant her demise as a powerful being – unless of course she remained pure – that is, a virgin. Similarly, when a woman was menstruating she was deemed 'unclean' and was commanded to remove herself from the 'clean' social male group, until her time was over. Her exclusion was enforced until the time of 'cleanliness'.

By contrast, in earlier times icons of warfare and destruction were feminine, for example, Innana in Sumer, Anath in Canaan, Ishtar in Mesopotamia, Sekhmmen in Egypt, the Celtic Morrigan, Kali in India, Pallas in Greece, and Bellsa in Rome. These ancient female deities had equal control of both war and love. They were honoured with chastity and promiscuity, nurturing motherliness, and bloodthirsty destruction. Although honoured with these aspects their 'real' concerns were with the cycles of birth, growth, love, death, re-birth. In the intervening time these aspects have been appropriated, misappropriated, divided and taken on by the patriarchy to argue for the superior status of 'Man'.

'Woman' was synonymous with such deified qualities as being the guardian of the 'internal' human being through the elements of instinct, feelings, intuition, emotion as well as birth, death, war, destruction, and rebirth. Even the Dionysian rites were led by and for women. Dionysius, along with Pan, Dumuzi, and Attis were gods of women. Because the concept of the supreme Earth Mother was denied through the separation of women from men and the arbitrary division of masculine from feminine elements, gendered anger and hatred emerged as a consequence of their fragmentation. Aspects of anger, hate, aggression, greed and violence were therefore honoured in the masculine arenas of business, sport and war while for women these aspects were demonised as mad, indecent and deviant.

As matriarchal and pantheistic societies gave way to monotheism and patriarchy, the carnality of the sinful body demanded the denial of the flesh to reach a spiritual union with god. With this change the image of the divine feminine was lost. The new moral order and the hierarchy of legitimate authority under a paternal god or god-king placed men and women in opposition, and confined them within the boundaries of lack and excess. Woman was portrayed as an undisciplined uncontrollable sexual source, her creativity and her fertility considered a threat to male status, power and authority. Befitting her status as a disorderly and transgressive being, woman was set at the bottom of the moral and familial hierarchy. Her dangerous sexuality was to be conquered, controlled and judged.

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In the 19th century women were not seen as a whole sex. Women were fragmented, socially and physically and psychically cut apart. Since women were regarded primarily as reproductive vessels, any 'sickness' they experienced, for example, anaemia, hysteria, masturbation, epilepsy, insanity, criminality, and spinal irritation, was treated on the assumption that there was a problem with their reproductive organs. These problems were dealt with in extreme measures in some cases by gynaecologists performing the removal of ovaries, fallopian tubes or through dilation and curettage, and female circumcision.

In order to control middle class women in their prescribed roles in the 19th century they were told many strange things. As women entered higher education men were quick to point out that females who studied botany would be corrupted by learning about the sex organs of plants and would thereby be unfit to associate in 'respectable' company. Similarly, women were also dissuaded from studying anatomy, as they would be declared 'unworthy of honourable wifehood'. Deterring women from knowing about women's bodies meant that men had the knowledge and the right to operate on their bodies as doctors with impunity. In this way power was kept in the hands of the male and female ignorance became essential to their prescription and diagnosis.

Margaret Sanger wrote about birth control in The Wife's Handbook (1882), but her tenacious attempts to inform other women about their bodies meant she was struck off the medical professional register. Founder of the American Birth Control Movement in the early 1900s, she fought against archaic legislation which prohibited publication of facts about contraception.

Margaret Sanger expressed the post-Freudian sentiment 'no woman can call herself free who does not own and control her own body'. Women who owned the pervasive male-centred vision for themselves through wanting to control their own bodies, were accused of 'penis envy' or accused of chasing up phallus power. In reality, however, women following Sanger's advice were proactive although male censorship reigned...

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